This is only for Christians in rugged circumstances.

I feel ENTITLED to easier

when I have fresh suffering on top of extended suffering.  Unless.  I’m freshly convicted by Jesus’ Spirit of being confident-I-know-what’s-best, wise in my own eyes, leaning on my own understanding.  Then, it’s, “Give me whatever is best, Jesus.  Don’t give me the easy my flesh demands.  I believe a little bit that You’re in charge, know exactly what you’re doing, love me immeasurably, are worthy of my trust, but help my unbelief, and please forgive my unbelief.”

Bigtime sufferers are frequent strugglers to believe.  And our flesh HATES weakness, HATES us struggling.  If everyone else were bigtime sufferers, it’d be easier.  It’s pert-near impossible to not feel ENTITLED when others seem to have easier, normal.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, a struggler to believe, especially when he feels lousy

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Jesus is Lord of the Waves.

And when we take our eyes off Him, and look at the waves, we momentarily lose two huge benefits of Jesus in this life —  joy and peace.  He lovingly controls the waves of our lives — the circumstances we face each day, in such a way that we sometimes get fearful, or frustrated, or discouraged, and have great motivation to turn our eyes back to Him.  Ahhh.

Our flesh is convinced we need easy circumstances, but easy just motivates us to be control freaks, INdependents, orphans.  So Jesus sometimes thwarts the plans of our flesh for easy, and lovingly gives us scary, frustrating, discouraging waves, and after fighting the waves, trying to control the waves, we see the futility of our INdependence, and have great motivation to turn our eyes back to Him.  Ahhh.

And it’s only when our eyes and thoughts are fixed on Him that we are channels of grace into the lives of others, especially nonChristians.  Seed cast on fertile soil that reproduces a hundred, sixty or thirty.  WOW.  Not mere human power.

What helps ME fix my eyes and thoughts on Jesus?  Sovereignty-awareness.  Seeing Him behind everyone and everything, so I’m able to enjoy each of His creations, instead of judging them, competing with them, finding fault with them, being irritated with them.  I can’t seem to graduate from needing to be reminded of His total sovereignty.  All day long, I’m confessing my unbelief in His sovereignty, when convicted by His Spirit, and then I’m blissfully Jesus-dependent.  For a bit.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, fixated on the waves, except when freshly convicted of the sin of INdependence

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Physical pain is a channel of grace,

but only for humble Christians — those experiencing sovereignty-awareness, thankful for everything just as it is, including the suffering of pain, believing that suffering produces perseverance, then character, then hope/faith/dependency.  Jesus USES pain to woo us back to Himself from functioning as atheists.  Impossible to be thankful for suffering unless freshly convicted of being wise in my own eyes, leaning on my own understanding, feeling ALONE and in CHARGE, as though there is no CreatorSustainer of the Universe.  Same is true for emotional pain inflicted by other humans, or by circumstances.  Only humble Christians are thank-ers for suffering.  Because only the humble REALLY believe Jesus reigns sovereignly over everyone and everything, implementing His genius plan.  Only the proud feel alone, in charge of our lives, confident-we-know-what’s-best, so we’re irritated or discouraged by any pain/hardship/suffering we experience.

All the people who love us best would vote for no pain, no suffering for us, but they only imagine they know what’s best for us.  Only Jesus knows what’s best.  And He loves us way-more than our best friends love us.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, knee-jerk proud man, except when freshly convicted of confidence-he-knows-bestTo receive my Tuesday posts, email me, or subscribe to my blog:

Is a Philly-upset-win in game 7

in Toronto, the best thing?  For the Sixers team and owners?  For Philly fans?  For Dave?

I dunno.  But the Sixers know, and Philly fans know, and Dave’sFlesh knows.  In professional sports, and in life, winning is everything.  But what’s the BEST thing?  Depends on what Jesus’ genius plan is, for the team, the fans, for Dave.  I know this — no matter how much my flesh wants an upset win, I will be happiest, if I leave the outcome to Jesus, see HIM as Lord of all.  Otherwise, a win — OR A LOSS, will simply strengthen my confidence-I-know-what’s-best, and that does not nurture happiness in Dave, but nurtures circumstance-dependency, INdependency, in Dave.  Dave is happiest when he’s Jesus-dependent, and most miserable when he’s circumstance-dependent.  Will my watching the game Sunday night on TV, strengthen my INdependence, or my DEpendence?  I dunno yet. 🙂

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships

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The happiest Christians,

are thank-ers about evathang, because they’re content to be clueless-about-what’s-best, dunno what’s thankable and what’s not, trusting their SovereignShepherdJesus to know, and trust that He’s behind everyone and everything, so they can relax and enjoy the ride.  No frustration, discouragement, anxiety.  Problem is, this happiness doesn’t last long, and depends on the convicting work of the Holy Spirit.  Happiest Christians get zero credit for when they are happiest Christians.  All glory to Jesus.

By contrast, we circumstance-dependent-for-our-happiness Christians feel all alone, feel the pressure of our lives being up to US, just like our atheist friends.  We do not experience the benefit of Jesus in this life, except when freshly convicted of the sin of INdependence.

 — Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, promoting Gospel-awareness, self-awareness, and sovereignty-awareness to Christians — especially DAVE, hoping seculars are drawn to an overflowing Jesus in Christians

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Great example of a GospelFriendship.

I mentor a number of CEO’s of nonprofit ministries.  For the past several years I’ve been mentoring Pete and Wendy Hileman, as the three of us go through the suffering together of Wendy’s Parkinson’s, and as Pete has been leading one of my favoritest ministries, to the poor in Philly.  Below is his latest update to his Pray-ers.  Notice the support group he’s in for men married to women with Parkinson’s.  He’s not the chief expert, but the chief confessor, sharing his failures at loving Wendy, as a Jesus-follower.  And watch the short three-min video at the bottom, if you wannabe encouraged at what else Jesus is doing in Philly.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships

Date: Tuesday, April 30, 2019 9:30 AM

Dear Pray-ers,

We still need prayer, though my emails are less frequent. The decision to step down as ED was a wise one and I am enjoying my new role supporting Jaimee. I have been working on the Doylestown fundraiser which is next Tuesday and we are full already! It is always a blessing when new friends get excited about us and become CLCP evangelists to their friends! We have full tables from Covenant Bank, Covenant Church, Wehrung’s Family Home Center and two tables filled with the Doylestown band of brothers. Bucks County Commission Chairman is coming for the third year and is giving the invocation. Our events are always great but without prayer backing we have no reason to expect this one to be.

Unfortunately, for the first time, Wendy will be missing it. Her dementia has progressed to the point where I just don’t know if she will be with it or out of it. I’ve learned this intermittent waxing and waning is typical of PD dementia. I think it is the most difficult of all of its many nasty symptoms.

Our PD caregiver men support group meets today at 1 pm for the third time. Four of us. It is a good group and a good way for me to interact with non-believers and share my faith through my weakness as a struggling caregiver. One of the men is a retired Jewish psychiatrist who lives nearby and has invited Wendy and I to come dancing with he and his wife. We are able to complain to each other about things we can’t or shouldn’t say to our wives. Word of our group is getting out to other support groups at Penn and Moss. We men for whatever reason seem reluctant to admit we need help until we are really desperate.

I’m so glad for this good spring weather and hope you are enjoying it.

God Bless You,


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I feel good about myself after I watch a movie.

Whether I like it or not.  Whyzat?  I think I’m addicted to analyzing, critiquing, judging, and I do that with every movie I watch.  Thumbs up, or down.  I agree or disagree with the IMDB rating, and by however many points.  It’s God-like.  Heady thing to sit in judgment over everything and everyone.  So when I have fresh worthiness of my own, I’m not as wowed with Jesus and His imputed worthiness.  But this does not deliver happiness for me.  It just strengthens my addiction to analyzing, critiquing, judging.  Terrible prison.  The only thing that helps, is being freshly convicted of being dissatisfied with Jesus and His imputed worthiness to me.  Ahhh.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, living as an atheist, except when freshly convicted of the sin of INdepenence

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The Jesus-like new self is an enjoyer

of everyone just as we are, and everything just as it is, all according to the genius plan of Jesus, but the worldly-like old self is a judge/competitor to everyone.  We worldly Christians frequently need the Spirit to freshly convict us of our worldliness, so we momentarily stop being wise in our own eyes, leaning on our own understanding, so as to judge/compete as a strategy to feel superior to others so we feel good about ourselves.  And then once convicted afresh, we are momentarily returned to our Jesus-like new selves, where we are freshly dead to our worldliness, our own wisdom, our confidence-we-know-what’s-best, humbly enjoying everyone just as we are, and everything just as it is, clueless-we-know-what’s-best, but confident our SovereignShepherdJesus DOES.  Ahhh.  CONFESSion is highly under-rated, and human-powered spiritual activity highly OVERrated.

We worldlies/judges are circumstance-dependent for our joy and peace.  We don’t experience happiness, and we live in a prison of others-contempt and suppressed self-contempt — intense, agendafied, stressed, never enough hours in the day.

Jesus-likes/enjoyers, on the other hand, momentarily experience an other-worldly peace and an other-worldly joy that has nothing to do with present circumstances.  Ahhh.  Jesus-likes/enjoyers get no credit, no glory, for momentarily experiencing the bliss of Jesus-dependency/Jesus-likeness/Jesus-humility.  All glory to Jesus and His Spirit.  But best of all, seculars are compelled by Jesus-likes/enjoyers.

— Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, judge of all, needing fresh conviction to enjoy all

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