The emotionally-unhealthy believer needs

three things to have the kind of humility and love, that is compelling to seculars.  1) a deep foundation of Gospel-awareness in daily thought and deed, 2) significant longterm growth in self-awareness, 3) constant reminders throughout the day, of the sovereignty of God.  There are no emotionally-healthy believers in my view, but there are many believers who have better emotional health, but even they do not have the kind of humility and love compelling to seculars. has mentoring programs that provide a beginning in Gospel-awareness and self-awareness.  I have some free self-therapy material that has been used of Jesus to grow believers further in self-awareness, over time, for those who already have a deep foundation of Gospel-awareness.  Contact me if interested.  You’re on your own with #3 — constant reminders throughout the day of the sovereignty of God, to grow your sovereignty-awareness in all you think and do.

Interestingly, the more Jesus grows me in self-awareness, the more I need Gospel-awareness, and the more He grows me in Gospel-awareness, the further I can be grown in self-awareness.  And so it goes, back and forth for the rest of my life.  But if He doesn’t ALSO grow me over time in sovereignty-awareness, I’m DOOMED to being circumstance-dependent for my joy and peace — tossed to and fro by the waves of my circumstances, because my daily life is UP TO ME.

–Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, full of opinions, needing to be full of Jesus

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I LOVE being wise

in my own eyes, leaning on my own understanding, LOVE giving advice, LOVE ministry, LOVE pointing others to Jesus.  Independency/pride is so effortless, so natural. I dunno how to live another way.  Thumbs up or down on everything I see.  Looking for what’s commendable, and not.  What’s thankable, and not.  Obsessive critic of every sermon I hear, every news story, Facebook post, movie, whatever.  I don’t know how to NOT sit in judgment, not opine.  Dunno how to ENJOY everyone, just as we are, and everything I see or hear, just as it is.  I KNOW what’s enjoyable and what’s not.  I KNOW what it’s like to enjoy my own worthiness.

—ShepherdDave, needing rescue from Above — fresh conviction of the sin of independence/confidence-he-knows-what’s-best, so he might momentarily be DumbSheepDave, enjoying the bliss of cluelessness, childlikeness, dependency on his ShepherdJesus, so the nonbelievers around him might experience the other-worldly humility and other-worldly love of Jesus

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Only the self-aware are poor in spirit.

Blessed are the poor in spirit — the self-aware, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.  A human cannot be poor in spirit, unless he is self-aware, no-longer deceived into believing he’s a wonderful human being, no-longer self-deceived about how impoverished he his in terms of holiness, righteousness, goodness, loving God and loving others.  Only the self-aware are poor in spirit.  Only the self-deceived imagine themselves decent human beings.  Only the most-self-deceived imagine themselves lovers of God.  The nicest, sweetest, kindest thing the CreatorSustainer ever does for us kids of His, is to freshly convict us of our sin/idolatry, so we are freshly undone, contrite, embracing our spiritual poverty, our pathetic need of a Savior, enjoying ourselves and others, just as we are.  He who has a sense of having been forgiven only a little, loves only a little.  The most-self-aware sinners are the most obedient — the best lovers of God and others.  Only the self-aware struggle with self-acceptance.  The UN-self-accepting — the self-deceived, imagine themselves decent folk.  The Pharisees did not struggle with self-acceptance.  The most self-aware believers have the hardest time with self-acceptance.  Self-awareness without self-acceptance is misery.

—Dave McCarty, GospelFriendships, not a practicer of what he preaches, but promoting self-awareness and self-acceptance based on Jesus and His imputed worthiness, so the Church might be the Church, so we believers might have a contagious Jesus in us, so the seculars around us might be wowed by our other-worldly humility and other-worldly love and want what we have

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Only the humble can love well.

Even love their enemies.  The proud are conditional lovers, and never love their enemies, only the like-minded, and even the like-minded are loved conditionally, when they perform up to expectations.  The proud are competitors, rejectors, critics, judges, while the humble are enjoyers of others, just as they are.  What’s missing in the USA today, including the Church, is humility.  Impossible to generate humility, educate humility.  Impossible to humble myself.  Humility is a work of God, and the human gets zero credit.  Beware of those who claim to follow God, are gifted at appearing humble, but are not humble, unconditionally loving.  Frauds in need of overhaul by God.

—ShepherdDave, Chief Fraud, who only sees the problem when he’s been freshly convicted of the sin of independence/confidence-he-knows-what’s-best/competitor/rejector/critic/judge, so he’s momentarily DumbSheepDave, enjoying everyone and everything just as it is, and enjoying the bliss of Jesus-dependency/Jesus-contentment/Jesus-humility, so the nonbelievers around him might experience Jesus

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In this Cursed world,

independency is essential to understanding human behavior in both nonbelievers and believers.  Even though we are all created-dependents, we all function as independents, wise in our own eyes, leaning on our own understanding.  Dependency is impossible, since the Fall, and only the work of Jesus’ Spirit in a believer, enables momentary dependency/humility/cluelessness-I-know-what’s-best.  The bliss of dependency is a taste of Heaven, the pearl of great price worth selling all to get, and yet we can give all we have, but cannot buy it, cannot will it, cannot get it.  Fresh dependency/faith is a gift, granted from Above. We can ASK for fresh faith/dependency, claiming the promise of Luke 11, that if we ask for the Spirit He will give us the Spirit – fresh conviction of the sin of independence/confidence-I-know-what’s-best/pride/worldliness, but the promise of Luke 11 has no timetable guarantee.  And fresh faith/dependency/humility/sanity/taste-of-Heaven doesn’t last long, because of the world, flesh, devil, wooing us back to independency, being wise in our own eyes, leaning on our own understanding.  Understanding-idolatry.  Where we feel the effects of The Curse raining down upon us.  Circumstance-dependent for our joy and peace.  The prison of independency.  Terrible, horrible, no-good, very-bad way to experience this Cursed world.

–ShepherdDave, chief of independents, except when the Spirit freshly convicts him of the sin of independence/confidence-he-knows-what’s-best, so he’s momentarily DumbSheepDave, enjoying the bliss of Jesus-dependency/humility/cluelessness-he-knows-what’s-best, so the nonbelievers around him might experience the other-worldly humility and other-worldly love of Jesus

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Until I see the impossibility of obeying

Jesus, I will not humble myself and ask for His help.  And I will live in denial of my independence/evil/wickedness.  I will dumb down obedience, dumb down sin/idolatry/addiction, so I feel somewhat successful at following Him.  Whyzat?  Because humans were made to feel good about ourselves, either through our own righteousness, or an alien righteousness.  Only the humble believer is able to lose all his own righteousness, and still be happy.

–ShepherdDave, needing fresh conviction of the sin of independence/pride/worldliness, so he’s momentarily DumbSheepDave, enjoying the bliss of Jesus-dependencey: enjoying his ShepherdJesus and His imputed righteousness, and His genius plan for every detail of Dave’s life, and enjoying as is, others and himself, so the pre-believers around him might be drawn to his ShepherdJesus

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Only the humble can love unconditionally.

Love self, unconditionally, love others, unconditionally.  Enemies too.  Humility is impossible.  Only the Spirit of Jesus can make a believer humble.  And it’s short-lived.  Believers can act humble, but the litmus-paper test, is what happens when all our worthiness is taken away?  Position, power, wealth, health, freedom?  A humble believer doesn’t mind at all, losing his somebodiness, becoming a nobody, pitied by all for his downward mobility to the loser place.  A humble person is never defensive, intense, hurried, worried.  A humble person has fun, is care-free, has amazing peace and joy.
–ShepherdDave, who knows what humility looks like, but cannot make it happen in his life

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If the Good News doesn’t include the impossibility

of obeying/believing, it’s not Good News for sanctification.  If it’s up to me to follow Jesus, make the right choices, believe rightly, strive to obey, be Gospel-centered in my ministry and in life, I’m still experiencing The Curse, still confident I know what’s best for me and those I love, which means my joy and peace depend on my performance, or things going my way, and the imputed worthiness of Jesus has no real value to me.  Unsatisfying.  Leaving me addicted to my own worthiness.  Forcing me to dumb down the law and sin in order to feel good about myself, feel like I’m a follower of Jesus.

Only when I acknowledge the impossibility of following Jesus, the impossibility of obeying His commands, do I temporarily experience the benefit of Jesus and His Good News.  Abundant LIFE.  Right now.  Don’t have to wait for Heaven.  Ahhh.

Only dependents experience LIFE right now.  Independents/shepherds only experience artificial-LIFE, pseudo-LIFE, through pseudo-obedience, and only when things go our way, which merely strengthens our independence.  And if sensitive, our misery.  The insensitive push onward and upward, always striving, always clueless.  Leaven of the Pharisees.  Worldliness.  Human power.  Boring to skeptics.

–DumbSheepDave, blissful only when the Shepherd’s Spirit has freshly convicted him of the sin of independence, hoping the pre-believers around him are noticing the difference over the past year

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