Entries by WeakDave

None of my business

what others think of me.”  What a great truth this is, that someone shared with PeoplePleaserDave a few years ago.  But yesterday I realized, there’s MORE.  None of my business what DAVE thinks of me.  None of my business what DAVE  thinks of my circumstances, my health, my savings, my ministry, my performance, my decisions, […]

The Thanksgiving holiday is very-dangerous

for followers of Jesus, seems to me, because thanking Him for the easily-thankable, obviously-thankable, reinforces control addiction, and surprisingly leads us into an INdependency that encourages God-bless-my-agenda kinda praying by believers, confident-we-know-what’s-best, confident we know how to direct the CreatorSustainer of the Universe. Thanking Jesus for the harrrd is commanded in Scripture.  Thanking Him for […]

Is self-love good or bad?

Two kinds of self-love: conditional and UNconditional.  Conditional-self-love is unhealthy, rooted in pride, self-absorption — I love myself when I perform up to expectations, or better, when I exceed expectations.  But UNconditional-self-love is Jesus-like.  Jesus loves us kids of His UNconditionally.  Humble/Jesus-like Christians love themselves UNconditionally, and others UNconditionally.  Prideful Christians love themselves conditionally, and […]

Who am I?

Am I the old man, with a self-absorbed nature, a strong proving addiction, A.K.A. JudgeDave, assessor, critic, of everyone and everything, A.K.A. AdultlikeDave, full of human wisdom, confident-he-knows-what’s-best, A.K.A. CompetitiveDave, needing to feel superior to everyone, secretly rejoicing in the failures of others, especially other sports teams, living with stress 24/7, circumstance-dependent for joy and […]

Financial update on GospelFriendships.

We’re running a $7900 deficit, in spite of my taking a cut in pay from $30k to $26.5k for 2019.  Because we’re low on cash in the bank, I needed to take half pay for August, $100 paycheck for September, and $300 for October.   Guessing we could have a year-end deficit of $5-10k, but hard […]

The wise Christian,

realizes human wisdom has always been his/her downfall.  Only Jesus-wisdom is valuable.  Dumb sheep are safest when  looking to their shepherd for direction, and are in great danger when they set off on their own, imagining they have sufficient wisdom/understanding to navigate life.  No fear of God, i.e., no fear of godless living. The nicest, […]

Stress-free living is a benefit

of Jesus-dependency.  Peace that surpasses the kind of peace provided by human understanding, human wisdom.  Jesus-dependency/faith/humility is impossible unless the Spirit provides it through fresh conviction of sin — especially the sin of INdependence/pride — leaning on our human wisdom.  Stress not only kills, it causes dysfunctional health.  Only adult-likes/INdependents are stressed by life circumstances.  Only […]

How to tell if you really love someone.

You ENJOY them, just as they are.  How to tell if you really love your SELF?  Without condition?  You ENJOY yourself, just as you are.  And here’s a little secret.  You won’t enjoy others just as THEY are, until Jesus gives you grace to enjoy your SELF, just as you are.   So whaddayado if you […]